Wednesday, October 1, 2008

The Important Things in Life

Let me introduce you to my family. Here we are on Christmas Eve of this last year. Things were good, we were happy, loving each other. Nothing compares to the love of your family. We will never have another photo like this again. Christmas will never be the same again. September 10th, just 3 weeks ago today my husband passed away. We are all lost and wondering how our lives will ever be normal again. We all miss him so much! Pete fought a long battle of 13 years with 4 occurences of cancer. He was working just two weeks before his death. He has always been our hero and he fought as long as he could for our family and we are so proud of him. He lived his live as normal as possible, working, doing everything he could to maintain a normal lifestlye,despite being an ill man. He never complained, always worked. So admired by all who knew him. He taught us all to face challenges with dignity. He suddenly became ill with pheumonia and just could not fight anymore. He was so tired! Even though he was ill with cancer he always seemed to bounce back. He had agreed to tempory placement on a respirator to reverse a condition such as pneumonia. The kids and I could not bear to see him on that machine, everything happened so quickly, he failed rapidly, and we had to take him off the machine. He went peacefully once he came off of the machine. We spent every night their sleeping in chairs, if we slept at all. We all had alone time with him and we would like to think that he heard us talk to him as we said our goodbyes. He would have been so proud of the kids and how much they loved him and supported me. Life for me will never really be normal again. I lost my lover, my best friend. I walk into this house and the emptiness is at times overwhelming, I really am lost in my own home. I know in time things will get easier, but I will always be lost without him.


Janell said...

Marla; this is a beautiful picture of your family and you posted wonderful words about Pete. I think he'd be proud of you for figuring out how to do this on your own. I'm sure you are all dreading the "empty chair" for the upcoming holidays, but I think you all inherited great strength and courage from Pete. And of course, your faith will see you through.
God bless you!

LaDawn said...

You are in our thoughts and in our prayers. And you are right: life will never be the same.

Brooke said...

I love this picture! I am so sorry about Pete. I wish I could have made it. You are in my thoughts and prayers. If there is anything you need please just ask!

Scarlet said...

This is a very sad post, but it's also heartwarming and sweet, and shows the love of family like nothing I've seen in a long time.

The photo is priceless. You show a perfect love for your husband, and I'm sure he knew how much he was cherished and appreciated.

You hang in there. We'll get you through this. ;) God bless!!

Granny Annie said...

Marla, how nice to meet you. What an emotional post. My heart goes out to you and your family. My admiration goes to you for your strength. I'm glad you won Scarlet's prize so we could be directed to your entry into blog world. You'll find lots of friends and comforters here. God bless you.

mermaid musings said...

Your family is beautiful and your husband from heaven is smiling at you dear ;-)
My thoughts and prayers are with you.

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

Marla...My heart goes out to you in this really terribly sad sad time....This is a beautiful post and one that will stay with me for a long time. There are no words to sooth, but know that anyone who comes here and reads this cannot help but be touched by it and reach out to you in this terrible terrible time.
It is all so fresh and new and raw for you. May the passage of time begin to heal you and your children's hearts, just a little bit....I send you my deepest sympathy, my dear.
I came here from Scarlet's Blog and I am so glad I did.

Winifred said...

What a lovely photograph and a beautiful memory Marla.

Take care and God Bless

Marla said...

Mermaid and Winifred:
Thanks for visiting my blog and for your words of sympathy.

Shionge said...

Dear Marla, I am sorry to hear about the passing of Pete and do be strong and I was devastated when my Father passed away three years ago and it was a trying time especially for my Mother.

Still, take comfort to know that Pete is never gone, he is always here in your heart.

Bless you and your family and thank you for sharing this with all of us.

Shionge (aka Betty)

Smooth Sailing said...


What a beautiful post and what a reminder to us all not to take it all for granted. My mom passed 6 years ago and I never thought I would be the same either. As you, I did have the chance to tell her "good bye..for now" and asked her to "send help" because I need it. Not everyone has the change to say "good-bye". That was a gift! You will find that, as with my mom, the fact that they are not suffering is comfort in itself and that your faith really will be your strength. I'm so sorry for your loss and will pray for you. I'm so GLAD you won the cross. It was meant for you!

Korin (an old friend of Scarlet)

Marla said...

Thanks for stopping by for your kind words. I really think the winnning of the cross was meant to be! Come visit again, I couldn't get to your blog.

Smooth Sailing said...

Hi Marla,

Forgot to allow access to my blog!! Thanks for letting me know. Hope your day has been full of sunshine.


JeanMac said...

So sorry - will be with you in spirit over the next journey.

Chatty Kelly said...

I'm so sorry you are having a hard time. I am going to recommend a you visit:

and see the book he has there for people who have lost a spouse.

God bless you Marla.